Friday, December 10, 2010

60 Days of Beauty: Day 5: Leading Lady

So on Thursday night, a group of friends and I got together to watch the best of all chick flicks, The Holiday.  One of the characters in the film is a British woman, Iris, that has been in a toxic relationship with the self-absorbed Jasper that doesn't show the same kind of commitment toward her as she feels to him.  She is completely enamored with him and measures herself against his impossible standards.  Shortly after giving him a Christmas gift (and not receiving one in return), it is announced at their work Christmas party that Jasper has just gotten engaged to another woman.  Iris is devastated and decides to run from her troubles by participating in a home-exchange program where she trades houses with a rich LA woman for the Christmas holiday.
It is here that she meets Arthur Abbot, one of the great Hollywood writers from the golden age of film.  The odd couple starts a friendship where in their own way they are able to help the other recognize their own worth.  In one scene Arthur explains that there are two types of women in a story.

Arthur: Iris, in the movies we have leading ladies and we have the best friend. You, I can tell, are a leading lady, but for some reason you are behaving like the best friend. 
Iris:You're so right. You're supposed to be the leading lady of your own life, for god's sake!

How often do we find ourself in the same position, taking a backseat to what is best for our lives out of fear of change or uncertainty or letting go...?  On the contrary, how incredible are those moments when we just know that we are in the right place--not in control, but not thrown to the wolves either?  Not safe, but undeniably good.  I think, once you pursue that state of being and feel and recognize it, then you begin to crave it and soon live it.  Each person is made intentionally and beautifully with boundless potential to have a fulfilled, purposeful life.  If you can't be the Lead in your own life, then from what perspective is your story being told?
I'm trying not to finish this with cheesy inspirational gab about God and life and Oscar Wilde quotes... since that is near to impossible, I'll just leave it at that.
Be the Lead in your own life...
... because that is pretty beautiful.

"It's Christmas Eve, and we are going to go celebrate being young and being alive." -Miles, The Holiday

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